"Why did this have to happen to me?"

“Why did this have to happen to me?”

I lost my son in July 2012. Someone one on Facebook told me to look you up. I was just wondering why I needed this “experience” to go thru?


Hi LaDora,

The souls tell us that there is a reason for everything we experience in this life. Every thing.

Your question is more than a question … it’s what I call a “cry from the soul.”

“Why me? Why him? What could I have done wrong? Is life worth living, after this? How could God allow this to happen?”

These aren’t intellectual exercises but invitations to go where the answers are … deep within us.

Grief is another way of saying, “I love you. I miss you. I wish you didn’t go.” The souls say it won’t go away until you’re reunited with your son on the Other Side. Life is a classroom, and they also say that there are lessons you can learn while you’re here; tests to help you grow spiritually, which is why you’re here.

Questions that you would benefit from finding the answer to –

“How can I open myself up to love more deeply those I love who are still here, including myself?”

“What’s really important to me that I’ve ignored?”

“How can I heal myself and others who are going through this?”

Again, these aren’t questions you can ask and answer from your head. You have to ask and answer them, from your heart.

Claire Ann Stevenson discovered she had a talent for writing poems she didn’t know she had after her son passed unexpectedly. She writes beautiful poems, and has published a book which she makes available on Amazon.com. You can connect with her on the Facebook group, “Signs from Our Loved Ones.”

I don’t know what your particular lessons are but they can be found. When you uncover them, you’ll discover a new reason for living. Keep putting one foot in front of the other until you do.

I have created a new Facebook group, “Doorways to the Soul.” It reflects my work as a Spiritual Coach, and lately I’ve worked with people who are grieving to help them move through their grief. I’d like to invite you to join my group.

If you own a copy of my book, you can also join my Facebook group, “Communications from the Other Side,” which is only open to owners of my book.

Of course, there are a number of grief based group on Facebook which people are finding helpful.

Lastly, you can reconnect with your son through a reputable medium. While it won’t take your grief away, it will help you to understand that “death is not the end of life, love, or relationships.” And that may help take away enough of the pain you’re feeling to help you see why you’re still here.



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