The Skeleton in Everyone Else’s Closet

I was listening to a woman whose young daughter committed suicide. She said, ‘If it happened in our family, it can happen in any family.’ And she’s right, it can happen in any family.

What I want to talk about though, is what she seems to be implying.

I talked to a lot of people who lost loved ones to suicide, both for my upcoming book, and during readings before I began writing my book about suicide and what the souls have to say about it. (I only did one reading while I was writing my book in which a soul who self delivered came through while I was answering questions for her mother.) One of the things I inferred from my conversations with those who have lost someone to suicide is that they thought that it only happened in dysfunctional families, not normal families like theirs.

Suicide is the skeleton in everyone else’s closet, until we become one of the everyone else. If the number of suicides is ever going to decrease, we have to stop thinking this way.

Here are some warning signs that someone you love (maybe even you) is seriously considering taking their own lives –

• Feeling like a burden.
• Isolation
• Extreme hopelessness
• Extreme anger and rage
• Putting affairs in order
• Extreme mood swings
• Sleeping too much or too little
• Talking and posting about committing suicide
• Making plans to commit suicide
• Feeling unbearable pain
• Increased anxiety
• Increased substance abuse
• Researching methods to end one’s own life.
• Securing to the means to end one’s own life.

If you are experiencing any of these, please talk to someone.

If someone you know is acting out, talk to them; please listen to them, and take them seriously. Just because they’re talking about it doesn’t mean that they won’t do it. It can happen to your family.